Self-Esteem & Self-Confidence
Others can only make you feel inferior if you let them
Very few people’s opinions of themselves are based on their own point of view. The way most people feel about themselves is based upon how others have made them feel. For example, if a school bully or ex-partner has made you feel inadequate, worthless, unintelligent, ugly or fat then this sadly is how you are likely to see yourself.
The first step to building self-esteem is to look back through your life and consider who may have made you feel bad about yourself. Who was disrespectful to you? Who bullied you? Who made you feel ugly or worthless?
No one is born with or without confidence or with high or low self-esteem, therefore if you feel bad about yourself this has been learned and it is vital to challenge this learning as it’s quite simply not true! If you’ve ever been loved by anyone, then rest assured this has been earned and this is why any derogatory beliefs are without foundation.
List all the people who have impacted your life negatively, and ask yourself questions such as;
- Why do I choose to believe that person?
- Do I respect that person?
- Do I value that person’s opinion?
- What qualifications do they have to judge anyone?
- What life skills do they possess to judge me accurately?
You should also consider why that person may have been unkind to you? Did they have a bad childhood, were they bullied? Did they come from a violent home? Did they feel unloved in childhood? This process will help you just start demolishing the schema that created your lack of confidence and self-esteem.
Another great technique to build your confidence and self-esteem is our Mirror Therapy.
Giving compliments and always saying 'thank you' to a compliment, with help to build your self-esteem
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