Our thoughts affect our mood and behaviour
An average person has around 60,000 thoughts per day! That’s an astounding number when you stop to consider it. From the moment we wake up to the time we go to sleep, our minds are constantly engaged in a whirlwind of thoughts.
Moreover, the range and diversity of these thoughts are equally astonishing. Ranging from personal experiences, work-related concerns, social interactions, future plans, memories, and everything in between. We might find ourselves daydreaming, problem-solving, reminiscing, or simply observing the world around us.
There are three main types of thoughts: negative thoughts, positive thoughts, and neutral thoughts.
- Negative thoughts are thoughts that are harmful or unhelpful. They often make us feel bad about ourselves or our situation. For example, “I’m never going to succeed.” or “I’m such a failure.”
- Positive thoughts are thoughts that are helpful and supportive. They often make us feel good about ourselves or our situation. For example, “I can do this.” or “I’m going to give it my best shot.”
- Neutral thoughts are thoughts that are neither positive nor negative. They are simply observations of reality. For example, “The sky is blue.” or “I’m sitting in a chair.”
When we think negatively, we are more likely to feel anxious, stressed, and depressed. We may also be more likely to avoid challenges or withdraw from social situations.
When we think positively, we are more likely to feel happy, confident, and motivated. We may also be more likely to take risks, try new things, and pursue our goals.
How to change our thoughts
There are a number of techniques that can help us to change our thoughts. Some of these techniques include:
- Cognitive reappraisal: This involves reframing our thoughts in a more positive light. For example, instead of thinking “I’m never going to succeed,” we could think “I’m going to give it my best shot.”
- Mindfulness: This involves paying attention to our thoughts and feelings without judgment. When we become aware of our negative thoughts, we can start to challenge them.
- Positive self-talk: This involves talking to ourselves in a kind and supportive way. When we catch ourselves thinking negative thoughts, we can replace them with positive ones.
- Practising gratitude: This involves taking the time to appreciate the good things in our lives. When we focus on the positive, it can help to shift our perspective and make us feel happier and more content.
- Using the ‘But Luckily’ technique: This involves acknowledging our negative thoughts, but then adding a “but luckily” statement to remind ourselves of the positive aspects of our situation. For example, if we are thinking “It’s ouring with rain, BUT LUCKILY I have an umbrella”.
